By James Wilson
Many
years ago I pastored a so-called pastor-killer church. Of the two pastors who preceded me, one was
so frightened of the elders he would throw up Sunday Mornings before preaching;
he literally dropped dead of a heart attack one day. The other had a series of nervous breakdowns
until forced to resign. These elders
were so dedicated to controlling their pastor they forbade publishing the
minutes of board meetings without their approval. When they got a draft copy they would delete
any item revealing their abusive behavior.
When I would publish the minutes with those items re-inserted the rumor
would go around that I was to be fired at the next meeting in retaliation for
defying them. But like clockwork about
sixty members would show up for the meeting and – under their steely gaze – no
move would be made to fire me.
Bullies
prefer to operate in darkness. The last
thing they want is to come under observation, much less report. Secular dictators from Hitler to Stalin to
Mao expended great effort to keep secret their treatment of their people. Church leaders do not sink to that level, but
there is plenty of bullying in the churches – at all levels – and daylight is
usually the thing the bullies fear most.
In
another church I pastored there was a tradition of men exercising all
leadership functions. When the elders
asked if I favored this way I responded that I did not. I said, however, that I did not intend to
force them to change – to sighs of relief – provided we continued to discuss it
until they came around to my viewpoint or I to theirs – to sighs of
distress. Reality was that neither the
Bible nor church tradition – let alone reason – supported their position. I simply kept shooting holes in their reasoning
until they demanded we end the discussion.
When I reminded them of our deal they collapsed before the daylight I
splashed on their mythology. But
bullying is not limited to elders versus the pastor.
All
Americans – Christian or not – have been shocked and disgusted by the
revelations of cover-ups of predatory perversion on the part of priests and
pastors over the past few years. (This
is by no means limited to the Roman Catholic Church; in fact, the instances
found in that denomination – the world’s largest – are not proportionately
greater than in any other branch of the Body.)
This is as clear an example of bullying by clergy as could be imagined,
although most are smaller – albeit every bit as abusive. I know far too many women who have dated
church members or leaders who proved abusive and taken their pain to the
pastor, only to be told it would be too disruptive to the congregation to act
on the information. Early in my own
ministry as an associate pastor I became aware of a man in the church stalking
a single woman. When I confronted the
stalker – after being assured by the senior pastor and our bishop that I would
get no support for this – I was forced to bluff him and – thank God – it worked. But I have given only a few brief examples of
a sick situation that must be addressed in order to be healed.
I
will never forget the member of the California State Assembly who addressed us
at the first Line in the Sand event in 2011 with these words, “If you would see
the state house healed you must first heal the church house.” That is why I am so dedicated to God’s call
for repentance in the Church as a pre-requisite to the Great Awakening He
promises.
The
good news is as I said before. Bullies
prefer to operate in darkness; they dread the light of day on their
activities. The challenging news is that
leadership – including anyone with ears to hear, eyes to see, and a mouth to
speak – needs to turn the light of day on bullies in the Church – and outside
it. The Lord our God would say – because
He defends the defenseless by His very nature – this is a big part of
acknowledging Him before men. Only when
we do this can we expect the Son to acknowledge us before the Father.
But
the even better news is that our God permits do-overs at any time and at all
times. Repentance is a privilege, not a
punishment. The moment we repent; the
moment we stop sinning – whether by our own aggression or our silence in the
face of it – and face Him, we embark on the first and best day of the rest of
our life.
James A. Wilson is the author of Living
As Ambassadors of Relationships and The
Holy Spirit and the End Times – available at local bookstores or by
e-mailing him at
praynorthstate@charter.net
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